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dramamine queen [17 Feb 2009|01:09am]
and so another week.


tonight i am going to take dramamine for my stomach instead of reglan and see how it goes. there are a few reasons i want to get off the reglan (but still need help with my digestion) but one is that one of the side effects can be depression,and since i already experience that frequently enough,there's a good chance that this drug has made me feel worse than usual,especially in the mornings. i've never liked getting up in the morning,but i never used to feel like i just COULDN'T. on sunday,the fifth day of my work week,i felt exhausted and at 12:30 p.m. i still couldn't get out of bed. but i didn't want to be out sick,even if getting up was awful. so i called in and told them i'd be about an hour late. that's not great,but it's better than calling out.


last night i watched bill maher on larry king and found him very interesting. i had to chuckle to myself when he commented that michael phelps' time spent in a pool was worse for him than pot smoking,because chlorine is a poison. i agree with him on that. i see ads on tv for clorox wipes that are 'safe' for saving small children from,omg, germs!
i'd rather encounter germs than bleach.

which brings me to the training i had in the cafe this week. for one thing,i'm hopeless as a barista...too many damn variations and varieties of drinks themselves. doesn't stay in my brain too well. a couple of people told me i was doing fine and to give myself more credit. ha! anyway,my point is that there is constant use of this chemical sanitizing stuff which i frankly make sure i wash off my hands before eating,whereas i might not if it was just dust or newsprint,or yes,even filthy lucre which indeed does have germs. hell,germs are everywhere. and it smelled like bleach the other day. now,i know it's really important for eating establishments to be clean,but it seems to be exchanging one evil for another,whereas i think there are other alternatives. so i'm a little crunchy in that regard. i like to use baking soda or vinegar to clean at home. well,i hate cleaning anyway,but when i need to i hate chemicals. i mean harsh chemicals,as i suppose everything has a chemical composition to it. i'm no scientist,but i'm not afraid of the chemical h2o,in the right quantities,of course.


spring training started this week and i am sooo excited for baseball to start. it'll even start early this year because the world baseball classic starts in march,but of course it will be even better when the red sox are playing again. and this is why i can't live without cable. no cable equals no baseball games to watch. but my hours are cut next week at work,and basically the income i lose accounts for my food money,so that will have to come from somewhere else. and still--yet anyway--i won't let go of my cable/baseball because i have such a small life,alas.

oh yeah.i 'discovered' garrison keillor's lake wobegon show on sunday mornings and i love his storytelling,so i borrowed some cassettes from the library. wish i could buy some too. thank goodness for the library. i couldn't go today because it was closed for president's day...boo hiss!(but good for the librarians for getting a paid day off). tomorrow i am definitely making a trip to the library,though i will have less time for reading this 'weekend' because of the one day delay.

every year i send kiddy valentines to family and friends (i have two friends). but this year i just didn't have the energy. sad. so i am probably going to send belated valentines as i missed doing that. which reminds me,i've got some checks to write for bills,so i'd better get to it,as they have to go out in the mail tomorrow. gotta send in my yearly auto insurance bill,which actually went DOWN. have to pinch myself over that one,but it's probably because i turned 50. well,yay for that!

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a first [11 Feb 2009|02:01am]
[ mood | procrastinating ]

today when i went to the pharmacy the cashier asked me if i qualified for the senior citizen discount,for 60 and over. gulp. i'm 50. that's a first for me and was it just fifteen years ago that i got carded at a bar? ha.

she said she hoped she hadn't offended me and i said no. she was just trying to be helpful. but i sure was surprised,even though my hair has a lot more grey in it now than in my avatar picture.

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[28 Jan 2009|12:10pm]
Enjoyment is not a goal; it is a feeling that accompanies important ongoing activity.

-- Paul Goodman
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[15 Jan 2009|08:07am]
[ mood | not great ]

i haven't written anything in this here journal in a long time. i haven't had much energy. i use it all up working and getting ready for work,pretty much. in the last few weeks my agony over getting out of bed is so bad that i don't get up until 3 or 4 on my days off. and in the month of january,two days have been so bad i called out from work. i didn't lie. i told them i was having a bad depressive episode. the last one was yesterday and when i called and said why i wasn't coming in (or maybe it was because it was close to the beginning of my shift,which in turn was because i was trying really hard to force myself to get out of bed and didn't want to miss work),my boss said 'that's unacceptable'. i don't know what to make of that. can you be fired because you called out of work because you are seriously depressed?

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"belong" [19 Sep 2008|01:35am]
[ music | police-message in a bottle ]

i'm 50 and the cool thing is i care less what other people think. i'm sick of being 'special',though. you can be special and be totally overlooked. i know because i spent three months almost entirely alone but thank goodness for my sisters,dad and a couple of friends who live far away. i think that must be what it is like when you are old and just waiting to die. but i don't mean to be quite so negative as all that right now.

i just want to belong somewhere. but i don't think i'll get much when i google "working mentally ill" or "disillusioned by but not militantly anti-new age" or "mostly surviving" or "no seriously,i COULD become a bag lady someday". if you know of any groups or even individuals that fit that description,let me know,okay?

but hey,there are some good things in life. i still have food and a roof over my head and a job, at least for now. and i still have my webtv for $22 a month which connects me to this-here interweb. i may never achieve my dream of owning a computer,though. i thought i might be a poor adult but i also thought that i'd be a social worker wearing a cape,helping to make people's lives better, and having a supporting cast of friends,so it would all be worth it. now i'm somewhere between cynical or bitter. hell,i do have happy moments but that's because i'm crazy and i forget by distracting myself from all the things i should attend to but have no energy to do. once i can't pay for cable tv anymore,i won't be able to distract myself with sports anymore. or i could keep listening to sports radio on am since that's free,even if i wouldn't know what the hell they're talking about if i have no cable tv to watch games! haha. funny old life.

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what's bothering me NOW [19 Jun 2008|09:43pm]
[ mood | nervous ]

trying to be humorous,but i don't know if i succeeded )

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ultimately,thanks [17 Jun 2008|08:47pm]
[ mood | pensive ]
[ music | celtics pre-game ]

today i turned 50. yeah, back on this date in 1958 i made my appearance.

yesterday i was pondering today's event. my thought was 'what's a nice gal like me doing spending my 50th birthday alone?'.

well,it might be that i'm not as nice as i think i am. but i think i'm a pretty decent human being. when i was out of work for three months last year having my long-putoff (i survived 49 years of dealing with anxiety and depression before it got to that point) first "official" (meaning out on medical leave) nervous breakdown, not one person from my workplace sent me a card to say "thinking of you" or "get well". that hurt my feelings and it would have helped a lot considering i was out on medical leave because of depression. but oh well. recently,one of my favorite co-workers had a similar thing happen to her. she got lots of cards. she's a really sweet woman and i understand THAT. what i don't understand is why no one thought of me. when i did go back to work,i did get lots of warm welcomes and a few hugs,which was nice. i know no one hates me or anything,but i think you can see my puzzlement.

anyway,i guess i can't know how other people see me.i don't have friends to spend my birthday with because i suck at maintaining friendships. fortunately for me,my sister-friends don't operate by the same unspoken rules,or i'd be really really bereft.
i suck at maintaining friendships because i don't have much energy.i don't have much energy because i'm chronically depressed as well as sometimes having severe depression on TOP of that. all my energy goes to working full-time so i can support myself.

so,why am i alone on my 50th birthday?
well,i'm not really alone. last night before going to bed,when it was almost one o'clock and therefore already officially my birthday,i went downstairs to check the mail. i opened the box and literally out spilled four cards...one from each sister! what impeccable timing! and today fed ex showed up with a package from proflowers...my sisters sent me a beautiful huge bouquet and that got me teary eyed. that was a really thoughtful thing. if my sisters all lived closer,had more energy and more money,i'd probably not be alone today physically. fortunately,my sister sara came over on sunday to help me get through father's day with dad. we hung out together watching the red sox for a while before going to dad's,so i kind of thought of that as my birthday company.

to my surprise,i was in a good mood when i woke up this morning. for some reason,i am determined to be happy on my birthday,because it's MY special day and dammit,i'm special just like everybody else!

my 50 years haven't been all misery. and that has to do with my mom and dad and sisters and other relatives and friends i've had along the way. i don't really want to live for another fifty years (unless i got physically and mentally healthier,but i'm not holding my breath!) but hopefully i'll be able to get through the next twenty or thirty or whatever time i have left and have a few good moments along the way to boot. one can hope!

i'm a depressive because of genes maybe and the fact that i'm terribly sensitive to anything that goes wrong.
considering all that,i can't say i really had an unhappy childhood and that's a testament to my parents who had their faults but loved me with all MY faults and defects anyway. my adulthood has been tougher because i've had to take care of myself,and that's hard for me.i don't know if i believe in god these days,but if love is god,then god exists. because sometimes i'm able to love myself and my sisters love me and my dad loves me and mom did too,and maybe still does,if we exist after 'death'. and i kind of think love always exists. so even though my entourage is not as large as i'd like it to be,i'm not really alone. thanks,sisters.

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[02 Jun 2008|10:56pm]
I guess I just prefer to see the dark side of things. The glass is always half empty. And cracked. And I just cut my lip on it. And chipped a tooth.

-Janeane Garofalo
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looking for Self-loather Power [02 Jun 2008|09:45pm]
humor is often the truth
depressive humor
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life is too high maintenance for me [02 Jun 2008|04:16pm]
[ mood | mentally exhausted ]

life is too high maintenance for me.

(edit:i was going to just leave it at that,but nooooo,i had just STARTED my
complaining) and off i go )

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depression support groups don't seem to work for me [26 May 2008|06:48pm]
[ mood | pessimistic ]

i have the rare urge to post so here i am.(not that anybody cares...might as well eat some worms.) couldn't resist that part in parentheses. i didn't say it,but my inner child did--at least she has a sense of humor!

recently i joined some yahoo depression support groups (because they are more active than the lj ones.) but you know what? when i'm depressed i suck at support. and if i have a minute or an hour or whatever when i'm NOT depressed,i don't want to be anywhere near depression because i need a break. i guess they must work for some people,because they exist,but it makes no sense to me. perhaps i'm uniquely depressed. well,of course i am. everyone's different! but anyhow...

it was nice when i was in 'remission' from chronic depression for a couple of years there. i thought i was 'cured'. i still hope there's a cure someday. i take two psycho drugs and neither one works,but i'm afraid i'll be even more depressed if i try to go off them,and everything is expensive and even with insurance going to a psychiatrist will cost me more money. well,we'll see.
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[04 May 2008|10:54pm]
When i gaze at the infinity which is you, and lose myself in its beauty and vastness, Death and pain have no meaning, they are insignificant.

But when I turn away from you and centre on myself, Death looms large and pain overwhelms me.


R. Tagore
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quote [15 Mar 2008|10:48pm]
[ mood | inspired ]
[ music | celtics game ]

I haven't failed, I've found 10,000 ways that don't work

- Thomas Alva Edison

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kabbalah and the brain [15 Mar 2008|09:12pm]
[ mood | amazed ]
[ music | celtics game ]

this is excellent...

kabbalah and the brain

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[15 Mar 2008|06:44pm]
[ mood | lazy ]
[ music | college basketball ]

feeling a bit better today. i wrote a challenging post on the yahoo abe-hicks list and got some great responses. and my sister sara's and my get-together was not snowed out--yay!

we watched a 'cake-off' on the food network. it was a riot. there was commentary as if it was a sporting event. very amusing. and my favorite,the classic chocolate layer cake,won. man, that looked delicious!

we discussed various things--i don't think anything earth-shaking today,though there are times when we come up with great solutions to the world's problems,or at least their mysteries! today included an interesting discussion about lost. sara filled me in on much i have missed. i used to hate that show,but it was all questions and no answers. now,there are starting to be some answers,even though of course there are even more questions. and i love the flash forwards!

and a nice surprise--i checked the listings for basketball and amongst the plethora (love that word!) of college games,there's a celtics game tonight. yay!

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que triste,mom would say... [14 Mar 2008|11:45pm]
[ mood | melancholy ]

a gloomy night. it's pouring outside,but at least it's not snowing.

i'm feeling sad. i think i would feel better if there was something useful i could do for somebody else,rather than thinking about how sad i feel,but i don't have enough energy to do much of anything.

i even hate going to bed and that is because it means the next thing i know i'll wake up and it will be the worst time of the day...the daily battle to get out of bed. even though i can sleep late tomorrow,and i should be happy,i still dread having to get myself out of bed. i read recently that people who are autistic or aspie have trouble with transitions. yeah,i sure do. i do have a few aspie traits. i have a little bit of almost every disorder,it seems! i also found out about 'delayed sleep phase disorder' which is basically another way of saying you're a night owl and at odds with the 9-5 world. one more reason it's hard to get out of bed in the morning. i'm not even going to go into how i HATE showering and getting dressed. it has a lot to do with depression and ocd,but i won't go into that tonight,and maybe i won't at all.
i've been consuming more caffeine and sugar lately,and i think i've developed a tolerance,dammit,because it doesn't make me perky anymore. i'm always trying to make something feel better. meds don't work either. oh,well,just feeling extra low right now and wanted to write it all out. that's it for now.

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chocolate is one of life's little miracles [18 Feb 2008|07:06pm]
[ mood | hungry ]
[ music | rain ]

here's a link to an excellent article by hugh prather,specifically on 'a course in miracles', but which applies to spirituality in general.

in other news,i've been watching basketball,and prefer the nba to the college stuff. probably mostly because you can get to know the styles of the nba players,because you see them more often. and of course i watch the boston celtics the most!

i'm naturally very excited about spring training,as the thought of baseball warms my often otherwise somewhat gloomy heart. well,that and half-priced valentine's chocolate that i've been eating too much of!

oh,and this week i went boating in an automobile for the first time in my life. on one of the worst days of driving i've ever encountered in 34 years of being licensed,i was unable to avoid a flooded area quickly enough so i ended up driving through maybe two feet of water. fortunately,my car didn't stall. that same day, the overpass i drive on was TOTALLY ice,with nothing for traction,but somehow my car did not slide the wrong way. phew! scary stuff.

but thank goodness it rained today instead of snowing. and it was a crazy fifty-something degrees. and i've just baked brownies. gotta run!

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which way to paradise? [05 Feb 2008|09:31pm]
[ mood | cynical ]
[ music | celtics game ]

yesterday i went to the library to get some books on philosophy and there was hardly anything. there are tons of books of self-help,but right now i don't want to know about HOW to live life,i want a good reason WHY.

that's not a veiled suicidal threat. i don't feel like life is much worth living these days,but i'm still here and plan on enduring. trying to enjoy the little things,but certainly wishing i was much happier.

meanwhile,i've become a heavy duty sugar addict. it's my anesthetic to life,i guess. i could eat sugar all day long,but i don't,because i don't want to feel sick either or have to buy new clothes. still,i'm eating quite a bit of sugar. it's a 'safer' addiction,but it's not different in essence than being an alcoholic. at least it doesn't impair my driving.

i've been eating a lot of candy. i can't find any good brownies to eat,and don't enjoy baking or cooking so i don't make my own. i used to get these really really yummy espresso brownies at the natural foods store but then they stopped making them.

i used to hope someday i'd find 'my soulmate'. haha. but now that i'm almost fifty and have some health problems i've given up on it.i have no friends,though at least there are people i'm friendly with. thank goodness for my sisters and my two long distance friends,though we don't communicate that often. the cliques at work have been bugging me lately,but i'm trying not to let it get to me. i feel like i don't belong anywhere. oh,woe is me. life is so absurd i may as well laugh. after all,so far i still have all my teeth. oops,that's not true. i have one missing but i don't really miss it because it's a tiny bit less flossing to do! yay!

just read a fun and thoughtful book called 'the geography of bliss'. i appreciated the fact that the author,who went around the world trying to find the happiest places, admits to being a grumpy curmudgeon. makes me feel less alone in the world,plus he's witty too. iceland sounds like a happy place to live,but i hate the cold and dark. oh,well. i still think i'd love hawaii if i lived on the less humid side of one of the islands that had good air and it didn't cost so much to live there or i had a lot of money or the hawaiians weren't talking about seceding from the united states.

well,there's no eloquence from me right now but hey,that's life. just felt like writing.

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not basketball--just dad,tired,laundry,winter [28 Jan 2008|10:23pm]
[ mood | tired ]
[ music | college basketball on tv ]

i feel tired today. though i think the chocolate i ate a little while ago has now perked me up a bit. that's good because i've got laundry and a call to dad to make. anyway,i think it's more mental fatigue. living in a wintery climate can wear you out when you have to deal with the weather and having to drive to work on not-so-great road days,or you have to get up earlier than usual to warm up the car and/or clean off the car so you can move it when the snowplow guy shows up.

i just threw a load of laundry in the dryer so i'm gonna call dad. it should be dry by the time i get off the phone...dad usually talks for about an hour,even if it's about the same few things! i think he did that even before he had alzheimer's.
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well,i was gonna write about basketball,but i just got off the phone with dad and i'm exhausted. don't have the energy to do another load of laundry,so i will have to do an extra one tomorrow. dad is so miserable. he's in assisted living and doesn't understand why he can't manage his money or drive his car anymore. it just makes me sad to hear him so frustrated and angry,but there isn't much i can do about it,because he just doesn't understand much. he even said it 'hurt' him when his car was taken away and i just wish he could understand that it isn't safe for him to drive anymore. i almost started crying. anyway,guess that's it for now from me. maybe i'll write about basketball,which is a happier subject,later. and perhaps i'll discuss my new status as a major rather than a minor sugar addict. right now i'm going to eat some baked potato chips and fruit candies...

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who's your candidate? (quiz) [06 Jan 2008|10:57am]
82% Hillary Clinton
82% John Edwards
82% Barack Obama
78% Chris Dodd
76% Joe Biden
72% Mike Gravel
69% Dennis Kucinich
67% Bill Richardson
43% John McCain
41% Rudy Giuliani
34% Mitt Romney
34% Tom Tancredo
33% Mike Huckabee
20% Ron Paul
20% Fred Thompson

2008 Presidential Candidate Matching Quiz

this does not surprise me. pretty spot on. i don't like hillary clinton on a personal level,but that's not the important factor. i like much of what she stands for. funny how mccain is my 'top' republican. well,not funny,really. he's the only republican i really like amongst the candidates.
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